There are many reasons why people decide to have séx before marriage both while they’re dating/engaged and before with other partners.
There are clear benefits to not waiting until your wedding night to have séx with the person you’re going to spend the rest of your life with. Here are some reasons why having sex before marriage can be a good thing:
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1. You’ll be more connected with your séxûál identity.
Every single person on the planet has a different séxûál identity, both in who they’re attracted to, but also what they enjoy the most sexually. It’s important to know that and to have done that discovery work before settling down.
Some of this has to do with someone’s sexual identity. In many instances, individuals don’t start thinking or questioning their sexual identity until they actually have séx. Your sexual identity is an important thing to figure out before marriage.
Plus, it’s important that what you like sexually is a good match for what your partner likes sexually. If you’re not séxûâlly compatible or don’t voice what you need sexually from a partner before a marriage, it can be a source of contention once you’re actually married.
2. You’ll have séxûál experiences
Another reason why having séx before marriage is good is that it’ll strengthen your confidence with not only what your partner may desire from you, but what you desire and how to ask for it. And although you’ll ultimately have to work with your partner to communicate both of your wants and needs, it’ll give you a much larger head start to already know what you want and need before you’re married.
3. You’ll find out if you have séxûál chemistry
Sexual chemistry isn’t something you can force. No matter how much you love a person, it may turn out that you don’t have any sexual chemistry together. If you don’t discover this until after you’re married, it can be absolutely devastating. If you’re not sexually attracted to your partner, this can bring a large amount of conflict and pain into your marriage that wouldn’t be there if you had discovered whether or not you were sexually compatible before saying “I do”.
4. You can have the time to work through séxûál problems with your partner
We’re not perfect. And sometimes you or your partner can have problems involving séx. These can be biological issues, medical issues, mental health issues, or trauma-related issues. It’s good to work through and talk about these issues before you’re married so you don’t spend the time doing it once you’re married.
5. It’ll strengthen your relationship with your partner
Séxûál intimacy is a form of intimacy like any other, it helps you connect on a deeper level with your partner. This connection will allow you and your partner to connect even deeper on an emotional level which will help you two communicate easier and better.
6. You could be happier
There are many studies out there that show that romantic relationships with a healthy séx life are happier and healthier relationships overall. With a healthy séx life, partners feel more comfortable with each other and more content.
Séx also helps decrease stress and anxiety, which you’re probably feeling if you’re planning a wedding. Séx releases dopamine and endorphins which are natural chemicals that reduce stress.
7. You could be healthier
Along with mental health benefits that help increase happiness, there’s also physical health benefits for having an active séx life.
Health benefits for an active séx life include: a stronger immune system; increase of your heart rate (yay, a way to exercise and have fun); lowers your blood pressure; orgasms are a natural pain remedy; and it can help you sleep.
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